Master & Servant
Hello my nasties, with all the sin going around this season, I wondered if there anything else I could cover. Of course there is, but I didn’t want to do anything that seemed to redundant. I had a think about to the some of the things, I’ve had people tell me they’re into. Then I spoke to fables and he said something about Submissives and Dominants, and I was like, here we go!
I do not have an personal history with the Sub/Dom thing. It is something I am very aware of, and know how a lot of it works, in theory. I know this because I did my research a while ago, when every single guy I talked to was into it. At the time I didn’t really understand the drive to do it. Since then, I have learned a lot more about it, from the people I know, and guys I had had the pleasure of meeting. I have now understood the need for it, and why so many people are into it.
What is it? Well the idea of Master & Servant play is, one person submits themselves to another person. Now depending on the relationship this could mean a lot of different things. Essentially it means both parties take pleasure, and erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. It is simple as that. Some people like to just have control taken away from them, while others love to have power and the control. Which hopefully you understood.
Why do some of people do it? Well, some people enjoy not having to be in control all the time. I once knew a guy who was this high power person at work, but at home they like being dominated. They liked when to be told to bend over, or get on their knees, and loved the punishment for not doing so. Which when I think about it, I could understand why they chose to be in thar role. While the reverse could be said about the dominants, they are just people who only have the power in this little bit of their life. Or in other cases, people think it is their god given right to be dominant over someone else.
People seem to think that being a submissive or a dominant always means sex. I’m here to tell you, it isn’t all ways sexual. A lot of people get sexual arousal from it yes, but it doesn’t mean they have sex. Hell, it doesn’t mean a lot of the people they are dominated or submissive to are even in the room. Thanks to the internet, there are plenty of people who do this kind of thing through the phone, video calls, and other was of keep tabs on someone from a distance. Some people might find this weird, but I find very arresting, because it’s allows you to be nasty from a distance; which is fun and nice.
If it’s not always about sex, what kind of Master & Servant relationships can you have? Boy does this get freaky some times. I going to get one of the obvious ones out of the way, some people like do to race based dominance. Some people like to think that one race is more superior than the other. Which is messed up, but I get it. As I’ve known a person who likes to think that the minorities need to rise up, and extends that to his sexual practices. Same person also stated he would never be a sub to someone who isn’t, a person of colour. Messed up, maybe, but I’ve seen posting online of people who want to do the opposite. HH!
Other kinds of relationships can include; domestic servitude, chastity, humiliation, corporal punishment, human toilet, feminization, cuckold, bondage, finical sub and public humiliation. These are just some of the kinds you can have. Or course, like most sexual things they go deep than you think. It is very key to remember all this is happening with consent, nothing happens without it, or what is consider a limit. There are things like written contracts, and other kinds of agreements. Of course some only like to do one kind of submissive behaviour, or some I just up for everything that can get. It’s wild how far some are willing to go, and believe I’ve asked. Hence why a lot of things are agreed and discussed in advance, in most cases.
One thing though, a lot of people seem to think that all these kinds of acts has to end in some form of sexual act. Which is a massive misconception, as in some case just doing things like being humiliated is the sexual act itself. It doesn’t mean because you’ve done something, you must fuck someone. No, no, no. Not every relation has to have sex with it. A lot time you do a thing, and then the deed is done. From my understanding, and from what I’ve heard sometimes physical touch doesn’t come into it. A similar idea that gets thrown into the mix, is you like doing submissive behaviour, you got to be in BDSM. Which once again, is a whole other thing. They are just off shoots off each other. Yes one day I will look into S&M, because that sounds like fun. A lot of the miss conceptions comes from…
Fifty Shades Of Grey. I’ve head it, seen it and I know it’s not that realistic. I think most people of my age, when it came out ten or so years ago, that was their first instance of knowing what BDSM is. Of course, like most things that get into the mainstream if that’s all you know, that’s all you’re going to think it’s about. This had a lot of weird writing, and the sex in it was not totally inaccurate, but not how a lot sub and Dom relationships work. What I do know, it did spark an interest in the activity so I guess that’s what it’s got going for it. Not everyone in a sub/Dom relationship has a romantic notion to it, but hey fiction gotta fiction.
Have I ever thought about getting my self a harness and whip, getting some guy or guys to make their master? I can’t say I haven’t thought about, then I realised it’s a lot of hard work. It’s little more than I’m will to do. As some people like to go for a single session, or they go for a long term master. Which sounds like, what you think it does. I think I wouldn’t know what I would want to do. I guess it’s all up to the person I’m paired with. I think this kind of thing is more FabEs’ speed (no shade).
When I think about the world, I like to think there are more kinky motherfuckers out there than there are vanilla. Like everything in this world, the fear of judgment is the thing that stops the honesty. If my best friend told me, they like her bf to dominate her, I’d be like how does work? I wouldn’t judge her, if she enjoys it why not. I wouldn’t expected someone to judge me for that trainer fetish I have. I guess some people arent ready for it.
If you enjoy a bit of Master and Servant play do let us know. We would like to talk you, and know what are you limits. For now I’m going to try and set my what next post is going to be. Keep it Nasty.
