Kiss Me
Dear friends,
There has been something I’ve had to deal with for a long time being with other men, and that’s the strong lack of them willing to kiss me. Which is so annoying and dumb? I don’t know where to really begin. I don’t know if it’s a man thing, but it might be, but what I do know is, it’s a lot of guys don’t want to kiss because some of the stupidest reasons,
One of the reasons why a lot of guys don’t is because they think it’s too romantic. Having sex with a man isn’t meant to be romantic, it’s meant to be pure sex and that is why kissing has no place within it. I find this dumb, because yes sex is animalistic, but also sex is also a connection with another person. By adding another form of contact isn’t going to kill you. Nor does it make it romantic, it just makes it a little bit more intimate. Which I feel again a lot of guys try to avoid because intimacy means feelings.
However, kissing someone doesn’t make it something more than it is. I’ve kissed a lot of friends, strangers, and girls (it happened once or twice) and it all it was a kiss. It didn’t mean anything, in some cases it wasn’t good, and in some cases, it was a surprise to see what came about it. While I might also add, some of the people I’ve kissed were gay and straight. All it was something we were dared to do, or just did cos the moment felt right, and after it was over no one thought anything of it. No one thought, were in love now. It’s weird how a little act can make some people feel so insecure.
Which bring me to a very obvious reason why a lot of guys don’t like to kiss. They don’t like to kiss because it’s gay. I dumb as it sounds, I’ve known a few people who’ve said they don’t kiss because it’s too gay. This is a redundant statement, because kissing another man doesn’t make you any gayer, that sticking your dick into another man. It’s just a shame this internalized homophobia is something a lot of people still put on themselves, being a little more intimate with another man makes you gayer. Which doesn’t make sense, touching your lips with another person is a lot less gay, straight or whatever, than putting your genitalia into someone.
I bring this us now because I have realised something, due to COVID this is something that has gone away from a lot of people’s sexual practice. The amount of profiles that say no kissing is upsetting and makes me wonder, because of this lack of mouth on mouth will it slowly be taken out of gay sexual practice? That is not to say it was very rare before, but maybe it’s something we don’t always think about, but I know in gay world people thinking more about sucking a dick than a tongue.
Maybe it’s just the men I have been around. Maybe there are too insecure about their manhood and sexuality, that they feel if they were to kiss someone, it might mean more to them than it would to me. Maybe I should try and seek out men who love to kiss, make out and feel happy doing so. Which I think should be a goal for anyone.
When I think back to my younger days, I had no issue kissing someone so long as it was behind closed doors. I did this not because I was ashamed, or because I felt I needed privacy. I did it because I didn’t want myself or someone else to be bashed. Now I still worry about it, but not as much as I once did. In my instance, I worried about my safety than acts, and I think we all know it’s still a good idea to have some worry every now and then. However, I would not let that stop me from kissing someone at all. I cannot let fear drive my life, but I know some fears are more rational than others.
As I look forward to 2021 and with clubs and bars being back open, I hope I can go out and find people who are willing to kiss me and kiss me proper. I know I shouldn’t really worry, as I have gone places and just stated making out with someone. I would just like for that kind of thing to continue. If you happen to be one of these people who doesn’t like to kiss, I want you to think why you don’t like it. Is it because it’s; gross, gay, intimate, romantic, boring, or whatever? Let me know in the comments, and hopefully I’ll meet someone who isn’t shy.
Xo FabEs
