How Soon Is Now
Dear Friends,
As I previously stated numerous times, either on here or in person, I used the internet as my way to meeting other guys. Like I’ve said before this method is a much safer for way for me meeting people, as it allows me to know who is actually into other men, and those who happen to be out for a friend’s birthday. You all should know one thing, I am not scared of is the rejection, because a life time of bully has made my skin hard as diamond. The one problem I do find with talking to people online is getting to meet them, and with some it’s a real waste of time.
In the past I would have held off meeting someone because I was scared of; how I looked, what they wanted from me, where would I meet then, and what if there not who they say there are? These are the most recurring thoughts that would cross my mind. However, as time went by I went about finding ways to avoid this kind of problems. Asking for multiple different pictures is good way to make sure the person is who they say they are, or a quick facetime. Where to meet, public is always the best option is most situations. As for everything else I don’t give too much thought, because I’m a lot more forward and honest about these things.
These a days I can getting thought my little checklist in the space of an hour or less, if I really seem to be connecting with a person, but then there always seems to be a hold up in getting together. The most common excuse is work, which to an extent I do understand. I do know though no one works twenty four hours in the day, so there has got be a period when there not working. Then again I do understand after a long day, that’s last thing many would want to do is be nice to a stranger.
Okay I get we are all busy people, sometimes I have trouble just seeing friends, but the truth is, if it’s something important to me I will make time for whatever the thing might be. The worst thing that can be said to me in regards to meeting someone is SOON! When the hell is soon? Soon could mean a week, month or months, it is such a vague answer. I have no issue in meeting someone same day, half an hour later in a coffee shop to take the conversation to the third dimension, but too many people are apprehensive about doing that.
As I previous posted I said that I am now speaking my mind, and anyone who I’ve spoken to for a while give me the soon response, I’ve just gone and deleted or blocked the contact details. Some might say it’s harsh, but to me I see it as just cutting the fat. If you feel like you can’t spare me an hour of your time, then why am I going to waste my time and data talking to you?
Of course I could end things there, but there is still a whole other level to this that I mentioned. Some times with these people I can ask them to meet, and there not free for the week or whenever. When I mention maybe sticking a penis somewhere, suddenly peoples calendars have opened up. This pisses me off two reasons; 1 you can make time to get your dick sucked, but not for a coffee, or walk in the park. 2, it shows me that what liars so many people are.
I know some of my dear friends who are reading might be one or two of the very few people who took years meet, but I can honestly say that time is over! Either you want to meet me or not, simple. Everyone is busy, and it doesn’t really set a good foundation for friendship, or dating if you won’t sacrifice one evening just to find out about me. I would fight through the work day fatigue if it meant I got to spend an evening with a lovely gentleman. But that’s me be a ridiculously silly dreamer.
I know I have gone on a bit, but I will say this, about a month ago a guy who was leaving London decided to meet me for five minutes, even though the chances of us meeting again are very slim. To me that tells me the kind of man who wanted to me. From now till forever this is the standard that all men will be judged. If you only had five minutes to meet me would just to say hey, you have? And I can say with this guy we both did miss out #damshame.
Some might say I’m going about things the wrong way, with this new rule. To those I; say I've already waited too long, and all my hope is gone.
XO Fabes
