Glam

It’s crazy for me to think the first thing that had the By FabEs names was, Styles By FabEs. Something I didn’t expected to have take off the way it did. It was something I did for fun, then suddenly it was something I was none for, while getting paid for to a degree. Which is why It’s really sad that his part of me, I’ve been forcing myself to for fill.  

I worked in fashion retail so long I started see what was good, and what was happening with certain trends. Given that I was gay at that point, I felt like maybe I should be leaning into the stereotype. Which honestly I don’t regret, its something about me that I have grown to like it really. I decided to ditch the trankies and sports gear (we’ll come back to this), and started to dress like someone who was so what fashionable. Eventually I decided to start to branch out. I started with my Mum, ditch the old clothes, for the young hip grandma look. While trying to get her to not only wear black, there are other colours people! I decided to give tips some of my guy friends then my girlfriends. Then it was me seeing an item and designing an outfit, for a person.

That’s all what I used to do, what I am doing now? Nothing, that’s what. As you should know, I have been losing weight for much of the year. A lot of the clothes I bought due to my lockdown weight gain, started to look way to big. Then eventually a lot of the clothes I have pre covid, were now stretched out, and didn’t look right. All this meat was, New wardrobe.

I decided I would be meticulous with my plans. I would design myself three distinct looks. One for work, socialising and gym. Allowing me to have things fit for their purpose. However, the job I do doesn’t require me to wear a suit and tie anymore, so I didn’t really need a work look. As my social dress would also work for work. So that made things a little more simple for the school next year. As for the gym look that one, I decided I wanted to have a matching tracksuit or two, to put on to and from the gym. In addition to getting a new set of work out attire as the ones I’ve got are too big for me, Go me!

One the ways I have been trying to get back into things is, walking the shops when I’m on break from work. I would walk past the shops that used inspire me, and shop and hope it would just click. Sadly, I have been reluctant to get anything as I don’t want to get something that I love, and then in a few months it not fit the way I like it. I guess it’s the fear of getting so big again it wouldn’t work.

What I am going to be going forward is not try and force it. I am going to shops and see if there is something I like, and then get it. In one case; I saw jacket that I liked, and when I got it home I figured out an hole outfit I could put together. Then I found some trainers in a sale that would go nice with a shirt I got a few weeks back. Slowly I’ve started to regain my confidence in styling myself.

Some of you might be thinking, why is any of this important to me? It’s like everything else I do, I do it with purpose. I hate getting up each morning and just putting on something because I have to. I like my having my shoes match something. Or having so many pairs of shoes, I’m not sure what I should wear. This used to be my life, and it’s one of those used to, that I do miss. I miss it because it is a part of me; it’s a part of this site.

For now I’m just going to say, this is a part one, and maybe later on this season we’ll get a part 2 and see how I’m getting on. Until then lets just all get GLAM! Don’t let the clothes wear you! Stay FABULOUS,

FabEs