21 Questions
Dear friends,
When life is kind it usually combines something you like doing, with work. For me I have been fortunate enough to find a job where I constantly must ask questions to get inside of someones mind. it allows me to understand a lot of how a student is thinking and get to know them as people. When it comes to my writing and general decisions in life, I love to ask questions. I do this because it allows me to reflect on myself, while at the same time understand the person I’m asking. However, there has been some issue with some people in regards in what I can ask.
I have been posting recently, there are a lot more ideas going through my mind. when I have these ideas, I need to ask people, to get a better idea. When I asked questions, I sometimes ask qualitative and quantitative questions (I studied business once). A lot of the time the questions go hand in had with each other. I mean if I were to ask someone; do you like Video Games, the answer would be yes, no, sometimes. depending on the answer I would ask a qualitative question of why, how come, why do think that. to me is very important because it’s getting a better understanding of my question. Then sometimes the answer sparks something else I didn’t realise.
The whole point of this post to tell people how I go about creating context, and how the people I know play a bigger part then they realise. Also, some people have begun to ask me why I’m asking these questions, and I am thinking have we just met? I mean I know sometimes I can make things seem like I am doing a personal interview. a lot of the time it turns into a very interesting conversation. So whats the harm?
Even more recently I’ve had people just avoid the question I have asked. Or they have gone about trying to rearrange the question to give the answer they feel I want, or they feel comfortable giving. Which I don’t quite understand, why this need to modify the question. I could understand if I was asking something that didn’t need a positive or negative answer. me asking a question of do you think I look fat, then stating you don’t have opinion isn’t the answer.
Maybe its me, maybe not a lot of people can be asked direct question and deal with it. Maybe that’s an issue I need to think about going forward. as life has gone on, I have learned to be direct because direct gets the best response. I also know some people might feel awkward about what I am asking or could make them anxious and worried about there reply. When a lot the time I just asking to make a conversation. Maybe that’s where I am losing people, they most likely think what ever they say I’m going to judge them.
let me make that even more clear. When I ask things, I am asking you for your thoughts, but I am not judging you for them. I am not going to lie I do don’t judge people, not in the questions I’m directly asking. In answering follow up questions it allows me to understand your point of view. the more I know why someone thinks something it allows me to gain this idea I have of myself, a very objective person who can understand many different viewpoints. from that point I feel like the only people I judge are the people who don’t want to be understood.
I hope this post has helped give people some clarification about what I do. Also, I hope it allows some of you to be more opening about your responses. Why also helping you understand why asking someone why they think is important. One last thing, I don’t want anyone to think that what they have to say is, stupid or silly. It’s your reason and no one, including me has the right to make fun or complain about it. no one’s response or opinion is stupid, except Trump.
Xo FabEs.
