White Wedding

Dear Friends,

Today's post is a leftover idea from a good couple seasons ago. However, as of late I have been thinking about my relationship with men, and this thought has come back to me. I had a lot of feelings about what I would like to do with my own wedding, when a lot of my friends were getting married. Or when I had three weddings to go to in one summer. Now even though I am single, I still like to think, wouldn't it be nice?

Now if you have been living in the real world, you will know the idea of getting married is very new for people like me. Even though some people would like to think it shouldn’t happen, or worse it’s just us pretend. When I was younger, and thinking about my sexuality, I never really thought about getting married. I never thought about it. It was honestly something I just filed away under, that's one of the things I will never get to do. However, when it was made legal here in England and many other places, that's when I started to wonder.

I started to wonder if I would actually date someone long enough to have a marriage? Could I see myself committing to someone for at least a good few years. As I'm not naive enough to convince myself divorce doesn’t happen. Because feelings can change, as do wants and needs also do. Do I see myself stand up in front of a bunch of people and say, this is the person I choose to be with? I like to think I would (I’m an optimist remember) but who knows if it would ever become a reality, (I'm also a realist). As it’s me, it doesn't stop me dreaming of some of the things that happen. So let me tell you some of the things I would want for my non white wedding.

Location

One of the things I have thought about for a long time is where I would like to have my wedding. Since I am not religious any more, I wouldn't want to have it in any church. As much as I could see the irony in it, for me a church isn’t going to cut it. If you know me, you know I like things to be a bit regal, so I’d love to get married in a castle. Yes you read that right, I would love to get married in a mother fucking castle!

Of course, I have looked into how much it would cost to have a wedding in a castle, and even though it's a bit Ching, Ching! I would more than love the opportunity to have my wedding in a castle. Which one I don't know either, but some remote castle would be nice, with nice fields and maybe even be part of a hotel to host my guests. It would be nice. If my future husband truly wouldn't care about where we get married, he would give this to me. Not so I get my way, because then I would compromise considerably on other aspects of the wedding.

Guests

This was one aspect of the wedding where I wasn't exactly sure about. As I’m not really close with a lot of people any more. As well as most my family being rather small and distant. I like to think I would like to have a rather small gathering. As I think if were to have a wedding of 60 people, I could just about find my 30 to fill out the guest list. Some might read that and be shocked about how small it is, or how large it is. For me I kind of always saw my wedding as being a small intimate affair. Rather than this huge spectacle. Or course, this all depends on the other groom. As they might be the kind of person who has a large family. A large circle of friends. I’d like to think we would keep it small, but who knows.

Wedding Party

Okay this one is something I have considered quite a lot. Like most weddings you have a best man, maid of honour whatever. Now as two men, it means we have to have two best men. However, as we live in the year of 2022, I think we should be calling it The Best Person. My groomsmen should be Groom's People also. As I know my party would be a mixture of males and females.

What else I would like to do is a matching outfit. Now I would like them to be gender neutral outfits. Or if someone chooses to make a small modification to make it look more feminine or masculine. I am very free to choose. One thing I would like, because you know me. Is to have one item that is a different colour. Such as, a tie, suspenders, or shirt. You know something that represents me. While one of the things I have been thinking about is having five people with me, and we’re all wearing red, black, yellow, blue, pink and green. (if you know you know). So that I have my squad with me. As for my other grooms party, he can do his own thing, just not copy mine. You know, let him have his party the way he wants it. So long as it is tacky, or worse, basic!

Song & Dance

Ok the last thing I have truly given some thought about is the song. Now I once told a couple of people I had chosen my song a while ago. Honestly it hasn't changed. As it is LGBT+ adjacent. Am I going to tell you what the song is? Nope. If I do, people might copy it, and then I can’t use it. But if you know me personally do feel free to ask and see if I will tell you.

As the song I have chosen is not a slow song, I would like for the first dance to be a nice choreographed routine. Because you know, GAY! But also I think it would be nice to have a thing that has taken a long time to perfect, sort of like the relationship. As well as finally living my dream of doing a dance that is perfectly timed, just like any musical I have seen. Also one again to hammer home the gay!

Well those are my ideas, about what I would like to do with my wedding. If you would like to comment on my wedding planning ideas, do leave me a comment. Also if you have anything else I should consider, that I haven't thought about. Or know any castles, or people who work at them, it would be greatly appreciated.

Xo FabEs