A Little Party Never Killed Nobody

Dear Friends,

When was the last time you went out? Or when was the last time you stayed out late in a pub. Or hell, when was the last time you went to a house party. I think some people might say new year’s or Christmas. For me I can’t say the same. The last time I properly went out to a club or something was in 2020. So what’s going on?

Well as I said back in January I was going to be having a drink every day for a month. I have official completed it, and a post about that is coming Sunday. The main reason why I did it was due to this. Not going out, and I wanted to give myself the experience of drinking, and then take back in the real world, but the real question is do I want to?

Now that I am mid-thirties there a lot a lot people who would say I am still young, I should be going and living that fabulous life. But there is so many different things that go against me want to do it. You know that classic trifactor of, energy, money and effort. Being that I am tired all time, I don’t know if I could stay out to 3 am any more. The amount of money it costs to go out on a Friday or Saturday night. Then there’s effort, in trying to get people together to go out with. I mean I’m not brave enough to out alone. I serious rate anyone who can do it, cos I sure as hell can’t. Why else would I?

Well I am homosexual, and its something I should be doing a lot of. I should be going out every weekend, drinking and chilling with friends, then head to a club that has tonnes of hot guys, who are dancing topless. While others are taking drugs in the toilet, and while some are getting railed in the backroom. Wait that’s Queer As Folk, that’s not real life! Certainly not my life, might be some peoples, but not mine. Just because I’m queer it doesn’t mean I need to be going out all the time.

Then I think about ten years ago and how it used to be my life. How I used to go out sometimes three times a week. To me that seems so mad, I couldn’t do that now. I know I was in my twenties then, but its seems crazy that back then I used to go out on a Monday, then Wednesday and maybe a thing indoors on a Friday, Saturday. And if not a Wednesday, maybe the odd Thursday. That seems so wild now, but I think the way I see parties had changed.

For me now a nice way to party is to have a bunch of friends, over for dinner, then spend the evening talking or having a few party games. That sounds good to me. I mean that’s the way my life was going before we had covid. I was thinking about having my own home and having monthly dinner parties, as a well to see friends and have fun, but sadly that didn’t materialise. But as you know, I constantly live in hope.

So why am I writing about partying if I’m thinking about changing it up? Well when you a teaching The Great Gatsby to your students, and here about all the parties it makes you think why am I not doing it? Also what didn’t help was showing them clips from the movie, which reminded me of ten or so years ago, and I was like, I remember when I used to do that. The truth is, like most things you used to do, when you start remembering it, you miss it. Which is why, last summer when I was getting the buzz to go out, I really missed it. I haven’t official gone on a night out since February 14 2020. Three years ago! Which is why I’m going to actively change it

Some of the ways I am going to, go about having nights out is a different approach. One, I am going to get the courage to go to one of these gay gaming meet ups. I mean I love games, why can I have that and drinks; with people who hopefully, like some of the same things that I do. Also I’m going to try and see how much I can do with the whole Easter Weekend partying. Also next time I am visiting up north I am going to insist we do an evening out, because I am not dead yet. Also, also, I am going to get that A-Team Reunion happening this summer. It’s time for us to hit up K-Town and go wild again. You heard it he here first!

If you are like me and sometimes think, man I miss partying, try it at least one time this year and see how you feel. I am going to try and see if can still get the same enjoyment out it. I mean hell some of my best nights are talking to strangers in the smoking area. Honesty, I am ready! so I’m going to grab my vape, put on sexy outfit, and get ready to shake my ass, so watch yourself! And I’ll see you out on the dance floor.

Xo FabEs